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Everything we say has metamessages indicating how our words are to be interpreted: Is this a serious statement or a joke? Does it show annoyance or goodwill? Most of the time, metamessages are communicated and interpreted without notice because, as far as anyone can tell, the speaker and the hearer agree on their meaning.

~Deborah Tannen

Topics: Agree Annoyance Anyone As Far As Because Does Everything Far Goodwill How Interpreted Joke Meaning Most Notice Our Say Serious Show Speaker Statement Tell Time Without Words

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The long history of conversations that family members share contributes not only to how listeners interpret words but also to how speakers choose them.

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Topics: Also Choose Conversations Family Family Members History How Interpret Listeners Long Long History Members Only Share Speakers Them Words

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I wouldn't say that it's hard for sisters to treat each other with respect. Many do.

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Topics: Each Hard Many Other Respect Say Sisters Treat

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Everything you say in a family carries meaning from all that was said before. So with friends, there is less likelihood of a few words triggering associations from childhood, where our deepest emotions often are rooted.

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Topics: Associations Before Carries Childhood Deepest Emotions Everything Family Few Friends Less Likelihood Meaning Often Our Rooted Said Say Where Words You

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It's an interesting point about sisters not getting the same attention as parents and children, and even brothers. I suspect it's just because women didn't count that much and weren't the ones writing the accounts.

~Deborah Tannen

Topics: About Accounts Attention Because Brothers Children Count Even Getting Interesting Just Just Because Much Parents Point Same Sisters Suspect Were Women Writing

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One of the first studies in the field of gender and language, by Don H. Zimmerman and Candace West in 1975, found that in casual conversations between women and men, women were interrupted far more often.

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Topics: Between Casual Conversations Far Field First Found Gender Interrupted Language Men More Often Studies Were West Women Women And Men

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It might seem at first surprising that when I studied women and men talking at work, I found that women 'interrupted' each other more often than men did - when they were in all-women conversations.

~Deborah Tannen

Topics: Conversations Did Each First Found Interrupted Men Might More Often Other Seem Studied Surprising Talking Than Were Women Women And Men Work

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An assumption underlying almost all comments on interruptions is that they are aggressive, but the line between what's perceived as assertiveness or aggressiveness almost certainly shifts with an interrupter's gender.

~Deborah Tannen

Topics: Aggressive Aggressiveness Almost Almost All Assertiveness Assumption Between Certainly Comments Gender Interruptions Line Perceived Shifts Underlying

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For women, detailed conversation is our lifeblood, while for men it's just not as critical.

~Deborah Tannen

Topics: Conversation Critical Detailed Just Men Our While Women

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This idea that we should be best friends with our partner of the opposite gender leads toward tremendous frustration. Did you ever notice that while men often refer to their wives as best friends, women usually refer to another woman in that way?

~Deborah Tannen

Topics: Another Another Woman Best Did Ever Friends Frustration Gender Idea Leads Men Notice Often Opposite Our Partner Refer Should Toward Tremendous Way While Wives Woman Women You

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Biography

Nationality: American

Type: Sociologist

Born: June 7th, 1945

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